Detoxing

I am wondering: "How do we let our life memories work for us, or not?"

My mom had open heart surgery recently and the recovery process completely took me by surprise. Whenever my mom would remember, and subsequently feel, anything uncomfortable/negative/painful, her heart would literally hurt. To help her recover faster we had to help her focus on all the good stuff.

Our memories are visible not only in our physical experiences, but also in our physical  appearances and the way we carry ourselves - good or bad.

A young, successful senior manager shared with me his frustration with a board member feeling threatened by him. When analysing the situation, the anxiety the older, more experienced director has, is completely irrational. But this guy clearly has got issues with what the younger person represents to him.

I personally have experienced a similar 'weirdness' when meeting a very impressive, dynamic, highly qualified person. It was palpable in the air that I personified something in this person's history/memory bank that she was not quite okay with. What to do, what to do? Look, I kept trying to connect with her, underselling myself, listening more. Yet, I cannot say that it worked. In another situation I watched an eighty four year young, phenomenal women downplaying her experience and unfathomable knowledge (memories) for the sake of the ego's in the room.

Our memories are there, whether we like them or not. What we do with them is our choice. Whether we allow them to come sit in our bodies and manifest in bad ways, or allow them to give us focus, energy and emotions we like – it is all still our choice.

The trick is to consciously make the choice, and not let the bad memories creep up on us and be toxic in our lives. Maybe we all need a bad memory detox ever so often?

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